I would like to encourage you to think of your friends
and other social connections as channels through which
information flows outward from you into the global social
network as a whole, and from which information from the
whole of society reaches you. For now, ignore other
channels, such as those found on the Internet. Think
just of interpersonal channels.
This “information” can be anything which human beings
can carry in their minds and communicate to others,
including thoughts and feelings. Let us not pretend
that we ever get completely accurate information, nor
information uncluttered with irrelevancies.
What we receive from each of our social connections
is distorted information and noise. Noise is anything
unwanted. An e-mail about a cheap mail-order potency
enhancing drug is spam. It counts as noise, unless of
course that you are interested in such a product and
its dubious source.
What the social network receives from us via our
direct social connections is distorted information
and noise. Who knows which of your outputs society
might consider noise, but no transmission is noise-free.
We can use the technical term ‘couple’, a verb, to describe
the ways in which our friends connect us to the social
network. We are coupled into the social network through
the people in our social environment.
What matters about each connection is it’s strength
in term of bandwidth or data rate, its distortion
characteristics, and its noise characteristics.
When seeking a friend, spouse, lover, a teacher, a mentor, or
perhaps a younger person to guide, what you should be
seeking is a person whose interactions with you will
have desirable data rate, distortion and noise characteristics.
You should seek someone who can send and receive a lot of information:
someone having a high data rate when communicating with you.
You should seek someone who does not distort your messages
when passing them on to society, someone who does not
distort society’s message when sending it to you. You
should seek someone who does not fill your communication
with irrelevant noise.
When we speak of honesty, for example, we tend to treat
it as a property of a person: someone is truthful,
or is a liar. It is not wrong to make such judgements,
but rather than attribute them to a person, it is
more useful to use them in describing a connection.
Rather than saying that Albert is an honest person,
for example, it would be more useful to say that
there is much honesty in the communications of Albert
with his best friend, Bruce. We could also say that
there is much honesty in the communications of Albert
and his wife Abbie.
Honesty is related to distortion, the distortion of
the truth. It may also be related to noise, the
masking of the truth with irrelevancies.
In choosing a best friend, Albert wisely chose Bruce,
because they are capable of being honest with one
another and want to be honest with one another. These
are more human ways of describing some aspects of the
distortion and noise characteristics of their relationship
as a communication channel.
In choosing Albert as a husband, Abbie wisely chose
someone she could have an honest relationship with.
Not an easy thing to do!
As I mentioned yesterday, there are several properties
of communications channels which are important, and
all of them should be considered in choosing social
connections. As I will show in a later post, there
are so many important factors that finding good
connections “by hand”, personally, is almost impossible.
The mythical “one-in-a-million” relationship is just
barely close enough.
That is were social technology comes in. Social technology
must provide the tools and techniques with which a person
can establish good social connections and live in an
increasingly optimized social environment. The key goal
is a few relationships of the highest possible quality.
Current social utilities like Facebook do just the opposite,
they make it easy to find many relationships of low quality.
Another goal is to improve the signal-to-noise ratio of
the total of your communications within society. Facebook
does just the opposite, adding social noise.
Think of it this way: Society is trying to tell you something.
Don’t seek it on the Internet, ask your friends. If they
are the right friends, society’s message will be in their
words. You probably want to influence society in some way.
Most people do, if only for their own gain. For whatever
reason, the best way to influence society would be to
influence your friends. If they are the right friends,
that will be effective.
So, the key is finding the right friends and the best possible
other people to form your social environment. You just
can’t do that by acting in person. Even with all the
social technology that is currently available, it will
be hard.
What I envisioned decades ago was a world in which it would
be easy to find and form high quality social connections.
Ever since then I have been working out the technical details,
which I will discuss in successive posts. Stay tuned.